This evening I was talking to my friend Nick. He asked me how I had been doing this week. I told him about my recent injury and being ill. Then I told him that God has been teaching me a lot about loneliness and how you can’t depend on other people to make you not lonely.
I often put this responsibility on the shoulders of a significant other. However, I’m starting to suspect that the intense wanting to not be lonely could possibly be what’s driven me to go too far physically with girls in the past.
We started talking about how guys and girls view relationships differently. How guys normally compartmentalize their friends whereas girls don’t. Then Nick said something possibly profound.
The problem is, he said, is that we’re not compartmentalizing loneliness at all. He went on to share that when he moved to Ohio with his wife he was “guy lonely” and that we could compartmentalize it further to include “girl lonely” and “lip lonely.” He then concluded that since I had been in contact with guys and girls today I must be “lip lonely.”
I’m not sure what I’m supposed to do with that, but I think it means something.
